Are you afraid to propose?

Finally you have found someone who you consider to be good as your mate. You have already got acquainted and probably you are friends. You've decided to propose her. But you've a fear. Let's take a look at what kind of fears are going in your mind you've:

She may reject you. How will she respond? Will I lose friendship with her? How will I face her if she rejects me? Blah blah.

Your fears are not groundless. It's very difficult to handle rejection. But can't you take it like other battles in life. There are the chances that you may lose, but that should not deter you from fighting. Hope this quote motivates you - "To love and win is the best thing, to love and lose is the second best."

You think that she might feel bad. Oh, really? Consider the situation by placing yourself in her shoes. Will you feel offended if somebody proposes you? Even if you don't like her. Since you were proposed, you would feel happy that somebody likes you. Who dislikes to be liked? Simple logic!

Let's think about how she will react:

1. There is a gleam in her eyes. Suddenly there are tears. What are you waiting for, give her a tight hug and wipe her tears. She also felt it, but waited so long because she wanted you to propose her. Lucky chap!!!

2. "We are good friends, I never thought in this direction" - Your reply should be -"I hope you are not planning to marry a foe". Well, dude you have a chance, but you've to fight hard. Give her some time to think. To make her believe that you are a good choice for her.

3. "No, I don't like this idea. It’s better we remain friends only". Hmmm. Try to reason out. Don't press too hard. If there is something which can be handled like family acceptance, career plans etc, try to solve the issue. If she doesn't reveal anything, it’s a tough call. I'll suggest to look somewhere else.

4. "I've a boyfriend; we are getting married next month. I was going to invite you today". Stupid! What were you doing these days? Should have known this! Hard luck! Think that you were late else she would have definitely chosen you.

There might be some other responses, depending on what variety of this complex species you come across with. Being a common man, I have tried to list down the most common responses.