Are you afraid to propose?

Finally you have found someone who you consider to be good as your mate. You have already got acquainted and probably you are friends. You've decided to propose her. But you've a fear. Let's take a look at what kind of fears are going in your mind you've:

She may reject you. How will she respond? Will I lose friendship with her? How will I face her if she rejects me? Blah blah.

Your fears are not groundless. It's very difficult to handle rejection. But can't you take it like other battles in life. There are the chances that you may lose, but that should not deter you from fighting. Hope this quote motivates you - "To love and win is the best thing, to love and lose is the second best."

You think that she might feel bad. Oh, really? Consider the situation by placing yourself in her shoes. Will you feel offended if somebody proposes you? Even if you don't like her. Since you were proposed, you would feel happy that somebody likes you. Who dislikes to be liked? Simple logic!

Let's think about how she will react:

1. There is a gleam in her eyes. Suddenly there are tears. What are you waiting for, give her a tight hug and wipe her tears. She also felt it, but waited so long because she wanted you to propose her. Lucky chap!!!

2. "We are good friends, I never thought in this direction" - Your reply should be -"I hope you are not planning to marry a foe". Well, dude you have a chance, but you've to fight hard. Give her some time to think. To make her believe that you are a good choice for her.

3. "No, I don't like this idea. It’s better we remain friends only". Hmmm. Try to reason out. Don't press too hard. If there is something which can be handled like family acceptance, career plans etc, try to solve the issue. If she doesn't reveal anything, it’s a tough call. I'll suggest to look somewhere else.

4. "I've a boyfriend; we are getting married next month. I was going to invite you today". Stupid! What were you doing these days? Should have known this! Hard luck! Think that you were late else she would have definitely chosen you.

There might be some other responses, depending on what variety of this complex species you come across with. Being a common man, I have tried to list down the most common responses.

Why are you happy today?

On a beautiful morning, I was smiling and was looking happy. Switched on my pc and started checking mails. Suddenly Sam, my team-mate pinged me on messenger.

“Good Morning”

“GM” No puns intended, I meant Good Morning only.

“You are looking happy today.”

“Yes, you are right. I am happy”

“Why?”

“Because you don’t need any reason to be happy” I didn’t know the reason why I looked happy some days and gloomy other days.

“I don’t agree with you”

“You may disagree, opinions are different and they must be. That’s what makes life and world interesting and dynamic”

“Most of the people don’t agree with you”

“That is why, that is why... Most of the people are not happy”. And the conversation ended.

Leftovers

People say that I am sharp. Sometimes razor sharp. Some love my comeback replies, some get irritated, some hate and some dread. I love it anyway. Nothing gives me more pleasure than a good reply at the right moment. One such incidence occurred, a couple of days ago.

She is a friend of mine, I'd say very good friend. She is committed and her boyfriend is also my good friend. I was driving and she was sitting at the passenger seat. It was fourth day in a row, when she called me up and asked to pick her up from office. I am always ready to help the people whom I like without any interest of mine. It gives me some kind of pleasure. Little I know, this habit of mine may have some adverse implication and repercussion.

"Are you flirting with me?", she broke the ice.

I was shocked by this unexpected question. And irritated too.

"Are you flirting with me?", she repeated.

I tried hard to control my composure and prefered to be silent. I thought, she knew that we are very good friends and I never committed any such act which caused her ask this question.

She continued, "If you ever try to flirt with me, I will stop speaking to you".

A blow after a blow, for the crime which was never intended, nor committed. Now I started taking it funnier.

"Don't worry ma'am. I don't eat leftovers".

P.S. Can you come up with a better (ah, sharper) reply?